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Question: “How important is music for your play?” For me, getting the right soundtrack can transform a scene. Whenever I engage in deeper S/m play I use music as an extra toy/weapon/implement. More so when I get the chance to plan out a scene in detail and understand a partners mindset. Getting into their head is so important when wanting to get the most out of a scene. You could even say that a good soundtrack is like a head-getter-opener-tool. When used correctly you can get right in there. The same goes for aftercare, I always have a separate go to playlist for aftercare after a brutal scene. For rope play though, I find it a bit different. Equally as important no doubt, but the focus for the soundtrack shifts a little. What I mean is, it becomes less about getting into someones head and more about getting into my own head. I really ‘feel’ music (as I’m sure a lot of you do too #empath #ENFJ 👊) so when I do rope, music switches something on in my brain. It feels a bit like like top-space. Ultra focused without having to really think about my next move. How does music work for you?
From every angle and from a very early age we are all taught and expected to conform. Falling into line makes for an easier life, you will avoid bullying from peers and punishment from teachers at school. Free thinking is encouraged only when that thinking is in line with society’s “norms” and rules. Even as little children our natural curiosity and creativity is subdued by rules and regulations. Shame and embarrassment. The “normal” and the “not normal.” Even more difficult, we are expected to know what is normal and what is not… and if we deviate from that we are punished. Making us less and less likely to express ourselves freely and naturally. Confidence is damaged and we learn that to conform is to be accepted. To not conform is to be rejected. As we grow, some people choose to rebel against the norm and find ways to accept and embrace their true selves, whilst sadly many do not. Conforming is safe, predictable and what is expected, and shaming or belittling those who choose not to is comforting and reassuring. This turns a lot of people bitter and defensive, and sadly that bitterness seeps out as a desire to in turn hurt other people. It can be scary and even dangerous not to conform. It can be lonely and isolating depending on your situation. It can break apart families and turn lives upside down. It can make people question everything and destroy mental health. At the same time it can be freeing, do wonderful things for your self awareness, make people far more accepting and loving of others, and completely change the way we look at the world and human beings in general. I’ve made that scary choice to not conform many times in my life. Once I started questioning one thing, I started questioning everything. I forged my own path and learned many lessons, some painfully and others beautifully. I’m a much different person than I was as a young child. My mind has been opened to all sorts of possibilities and many different ways of thinking. This journey has been both terrifying and joyful, but I still wouldn’t change my decision not to conform. Have you ever made a conscious decision not to conform? If so do you regret it or embrace it? How have you found the journey?
We are Delight Klothing…
Creative-minded people and proud members of the LGBTQIA+ / Shibari / Kink /Polyamorous / MH-Aware communities.
We design and make street-wear, rope-wear, kink-wear, munch-wear, play-wear and just-feel-good-about-yourself-wear.
We create beautiful arte-macabre photography. We produce video content and swirly lounge music.
Our ethos is for self-expression, whether you want to shout it from the rooftops or fly under the radar in the Muggle world.
We noticed there weren’t any clothing options short of ‘fetish-wear’ or cheesy kink slogans on the market for us to express who we are and what we care about (Rope! Kink! BDSM! Polyamory! Equal Rights For All! Mental Health Awareness!), so we decided to design and make our own.
Our business is starting to grow quite nicely at the moment, but we really want to make it a success and bring it to more good people of our various communities. We want to reach as many people as possible. For that, we need your help…
Social media is the powerhouse of ‘the people’ and mostly where our ad budget is spent. If you have over 5K followers we invite you to peruse our website and, if you like what you see and agree with our ethos, allow us to send you a free item of your choosing from one of our collections to wear on your social media platform and tag us when you do. No pressure - if it’s not for you, we completely understand.
If, like us, you’re a mere mortal and have a normal amount of followers but would still like to help you still can. Like us/Tweet us/Repost/Reblog us for a cheeky discount :)
Special thanks to Christian Red and EntwinedStar for their continued support.
You can be an influencer too!
If you have over 5K followers we invite you to peruse our website and, if you like what you see and agree with our ethos, allow us to send you a free item of your choosing from one of our collections to wear on your social media platform and tag us when you do.
As a fellow spoonie-kinkster and stable part of my local kink community, I have often pondered this. I’m a bit nomadic, and have been part of a few different kink communities in the world over the years. One thing I have noticed is that kinky people are often very MH aware, no matter their cultural differences. Why is that? I’d love to hear your thoughts. My conclusions are that the two aren’t linked, at least not directly. One is not the cause of the other. I know people that need to practise their kinks to keep mentally healthy. “Endorphins are free,” they tell me. For me, I simply feel that kinksters are generally more open-minded than the average Muggle and much more in tune with their mental health. There isn’t the same stigma attached.
What happens when a kinkographer starts a clothing line for the deviants they work with?…
Check out our latest creative collaboration. Search ‘Kinkographic’ at our store and find out!
So, I was at my local Munch the other day and the topic of scene negotiation came up. I must admit I was a tiny bit surprised upon hearing who some believe the responsibility falls to. The opinion on importance also differed depending on roles. For me, as a fully fledged member of The Fluffy Sadist Club, negotiation is SO important for any hardcore play I partake in, and even more important with someone new. I can take weeks to fully understand a potential play partner. For me, the importance is to 100% make sure that they understand the importance of what we’re discussing but also to make sure that they understand their own responsibility in the negotiations. Simply answering all my questions truthfully just isn’t enough. I always strive to give my potential play partners the confidence to look inwardly and speak up about anything, no matter how trivial they feel it is. I simply cannot know everything about them and I feel that it’s their responsibility to inform me of anything I might have missed. The aim is for my play partner not to feel the NEED to call red during a scene, which might sound obvious to some, but if a play partner is always thinking about if they should call red or indeed does call red then my feeling is that I/we have failed in our negotiations, (excluding any accidents.) I might have failed to express myself accurately or to truly understand where my play partner’s head is at. This is written from an S/m standpoint. What are your thoughts/observations/protocols?
What happens when a kinkographer starts a clothing line for the deviants they work with?…
Check out our latest creative collaboration. Search ‘Kinkographic’ at our store and find out!
We are Delight Klothing…
Creative-minded people and proud members of the LGBTQIA+ / Shibari / Kink /Polyamorous / MH-Aware communities.
We design and make street-wear, rope-wear, kink-wear, munch-wear, play-wear and just-feel-good-about-yourself-wear.
We create beautiful arte-macabre photography. We produce video content and swirly lounge music.
Our ethos is for self-expression, whether you want to shout it from the rooftops or fly under the radar in the Muggle world.
We noticed there weren’t any clothing options short of ‘fetish-wear’ or cheesy kink slogans on the market for us to express who we are and what we care about (Rope! Kink! BDSM! Polyamory! Equal Rights For All! Mental Health Awareness!), so we decided to design and make our own.
Our business is starting to grow quite nicely at the moment, but we really want to make it a success and bring it to more good people of our various communities. We want to reach as many people as possible. For that, we need your help…
Social media is the powerhouse of ‘the people’ and mostly where our ad budget is spent. If you have over 5K followers we invite you to peruse our website and, if you like what you see and agree with our ethos, allow us to send you a free item of your choosing from one of our collections to wear on your social media platform and tag us when you do. No pressure - if it’s not for you, we completely understand.
If, like us, you’re a mere mortal and have a normal amount of followers but would still like to help you still can. Like us/Tweet us/Repost/Reblog us for a cheeky discount :)
Special thanks to Christian Red and EntwinedStar for their continued support.
You can be an influencer too!
If you have over 5K followers we invite you to peruse our website and, if you like what you see and agree with our ethos, allow us to send you a free item of your choosing from one of our collections to wear on your social media platform and tag us when you do.











